Sisters are doing it for themselves
September 7th, 2009 by teragram

Oppression, that is.

I received an email from a friend this morning (included below for your viewing horror). If you don’t want to read about the latest evil schemes of MEN who will LIE IN WAIT IN *YOUR* CAR, you might want to skip it.

I’m always amazed by how many women I know who will forward these things; women who are not at all “silly” (particularly the friend in question). After I read aloud several passages for my housemate — my tone of incredulity rising — I started to think about the effects of these things (other than wasting my time and raising my blood pressure). The kind of fear they engender is wholly negative, in my opinion. Imagine climbing into your car from the passenger side because there was a van parked on the driver’s side! Or even, as is more likely, feeling fearful and second-guessing yourself as you get in on the driver’s side. It’s ridiculous, but women forward these things to one another in the genuine belief that they’re making themselves and their friends safer.

Reading this email left me with an image of women as gazelles: tall, thin creatures in constant fear of predators. Of course gazelles wouldn’t need the advice to always take the lift; I’d imagine the stairs would be too difficult for them anyway.



> An important message from the Police – please pass this along to all the
> women you know…..
> This actually happened a few weeks ago on the M3 FLEET SERVICES!!! It was
> early evening, and a young girl stopped to get petrol. She filled her tank
> and walked into the store to pay for her petrol. The cashier told her,
> ‘Don’t pay for your petrol yet……walk around the store for a while, and
> act as if you’re picking up some other things to buy. A man just got into
> the back of your car. I’ve called the police, and they’re on their way’.
> When the police arrived, they found the man in the back seat of the girl’s
> car and asked him what he was doing. He replied, he was joining a gang, and
> the initiation to join is to kidnap a woman and bring her back to the gang
> to be raped by every member of the gang. If the woman was still alive by
> the time they finish with her then they let her go.
> According to the police that night, there is a new gang forming here,
> originating from London The scary part of this is, because the guy didn’t
> have a weapon on him, the police could only charge him with trespassing….
> He’s back on the street and free to try again. Something similar to this
> happened at the Tesco garage on Cardiff Road in Newport recently, but
> luckily the cashier saw the man get into her car.
> Please be aware of what’s going on around you, and warn your family and
> friends. LADIES, you or one of your family or friends could be the next
> victim.
> Please forward this on to everyone you know. Please do not discard this
> message; it is very important that everyone knows what is happening. Please
> be careful when leaving your vehicle, and make sure it is ALWAYS LOCKED to
> prevent this from happening to you.
> The first bit is mainly for women, but boys, please read it and send it on
> to any women you care about. The second bit is a warning to all of us!
> Some sound advice for us all, as we all sometimes forget to take our common
> sense with us when we go out. This is from Northants Police Women….. In
> light of the recent kidnapping and now murder of Leigh Mathews, I think it
> is important to read the following info form your own safety.
> Things women should know to stay safe: Please take the time to read these
> pointers. There may be just one or two you hadn’t thought of. After
> reading this, forward
> it to someone you care about. It never hurts to be careful in this crazy
> world we live in.
> 1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body.
> If you are close enough to use it, do!
> 2. If a robber asks for your handbag, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away
> from you….. he is probably more interested in your handbag than you, and
> he will go for the handbag. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
> 3. If you are ever thrown into the boot of a car: Kick out the back tail
> lights, and stick your arm through the hole and start waving. The driver
> won’t see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
> 4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating,
> working, etc, and just sit (doing their cheque book, or making a list).
> predator could be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him
> to get in on the passenger side, and attack you. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO
> 5. A few notes about getting into your car in a car park:
> a) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, look at the passenger
> side floor, and check the back seat.
> b) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger
> door. Most attackers surprise their victims by pulling them into their vans
> while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
> c) Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the
> passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car,
> you may want to walk back into the shop, or work, and get a guard/policeman
> to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And
> better paranoid than dead.)
> 6. ALWAYS take the lift instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible
> places to be alone, and the perfect crime spot.
> 7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS
> RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and
> even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
> 8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may
> get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,
> well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting
> women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into
> his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
> 9. Another safety point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a
> crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police
> because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her,
> ‘Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.’ The lady then said that it sounded
> like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would
> crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, ‘We already have
> a unit on the way. Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.’ He told her
> that they think a serial killer has a baby’s cry recorded and uses it to
> coax women out of their homes, thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He
> said they have not verified it, but have had several calls from women saying
> that they hear babies’ cries outside their doors when they’re home alone at
> night.
> Please pass this on, and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby.
> I’d like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life.
> A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. Send this to any woman
> you know who may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of
> crazies in it, and it’s better safe than sorry.
> Warning!!!! Be aware of new car-jacking scheme ….
> You walk across the car park, unlock your car and get inside. Then you lock
> all your doors, start the engine and shift or put into reverse. You look
> into the rear-view mirror to back out of your parking space, and you notice
> a piece of paper stuck to the middle of the rear window. So, you shift the
> gear stick back into park or neutral,
> unlock your doors and jump out of your car to remove that paper, or whatever
> it is that is obstructing your view.
> When you reach the back of your car, that is when the car-jackers appear out
> of nowhere, jump into your car and take off!! Your engine was running, you
> would have left your purse in the car, and they practically mow you down as
> they speed off in your car.
> Just drive away, and remove the paper later! It is stuck to your window,
> and be thankful that you read this email.
> I hope you will forward this to friends and family, especially to women! A
> purse contains all identification, and you certainly do NOT want someone
> getting your home address. They already HAVE your keys!
> ….
> Brian Molloy
> Detective Constable Force
> Intelligence Bureau
> Strathclyde Police
> 0141 532 5867

4 Responses  
  • jimlad writes:
    September 7th, 20094:18 pmat

    The gang can’t be that new. I’m pretty sure I saw that email before a year ago or more.

  • Tanya writes:
    September 7th, 200911:04 pmat

    A predator could be watching you RIGHT NOW. RIGHT THIS VERY MINUTE. Is your door locked? Is your level of fear sufficiently high? Are you so fretful that you can’t live a normal life? No? BE MORE SCARED. IT IS THE ONLY WAY TO LIVE.

    The elbow thing might be good advice; these people would be more useful if they sent a mail about “How to survive a violent crime, whether or not you have a vagina.”

  • saoili writes:
    September 14th, 20095:30 pmat

    Urgh. Yuck.

  • BC writes:
    October 15th, 20099:59 pmat

    I see your point, but I recall a quote I read in Anthony Giddens’ “Sociology”- I don’t remember who said it but this is it:
    “Every woman is a victim of rape.”
    This always struck me as interesting.
    Women may not have been physically violated, but the fear of such an occurence, the probability of heightened anxiety every time you walk alone in the dark,the psychological impact of the fact that this can happen to you and that people can be so wantonly evil in such a targeted and- to a victim- personal way, are all factors that affect the life of women and the quality of their living reality.
    I’m just sayin. There’s something there.

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